Bullies Kill

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Although I never found her channel, I was moved by the loss of a beautiful wife and mother who was a compassionate and empathic young woman. Her name was Mikayla Raines. She rescued foxes, and her YouTube channel was highly successful. But bullies drove her over the edge, her husband said, because she was emotionally vulnerable, unable to stand up to the harassment. In school, I noticed the bullies acted like predators. They knew who to target: Those who were highly sensitive, kind, and smart.

Being able to connect online has emboldened some people to target others. Our social discourse is off the rails. Everywhere now. We have to get a grip. Our words can harm the vulnerable. No doubt those who bully are suffering, too, but their retorts and mockery are weapons. Obviously, a cycle of abuse is a factor. Generational trauma is inflicted on others.


Loving Kindness

Because I practice Loving Kindness, I send love and compassion to those who are contentious. This group includes those who bully. They may not realize how their pain affects those they target. They are lost, off-center. I also realize that I feel lost and off-center at times, and capable of lashing out because of fear. My being aware of my vulnerabilities helps me increase my compassion for others.

The first person we send love to is ourselves, and that branches out to family, friends, teachers, strangers, the contentious, and all beings everywhere. This article includes a loving kindness meditation. Give it a try.

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Love is a drop of water that expands to all. A smile, a compliment, a soft touch. Be generous with the sparkle in your eyes.

16 responses to “Bullies Kill”

  1. robertawrites235681907 Avatar

    Such a tragic story.

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    1. Meelosmom Avatar

      I felt so sad for her husband, who was inconsolable.

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      1. robertawrites235681907 Avatar

        Terrible for her children

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      2. Meelosmom Avatar

        It’s so sad that people even listen to the online bullies. But if they are already suffering with emotional problems and deep self-doubt, they can easily be pushed over the edge by callous people who are so damaged by life that they harm others for entertainment.

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  2. Ephemeral Encounters Avatar

    Thank you for sharing Barbara.
    There is so much hate online.
    Keyboard gangsters hiding behind a PC!
    Kindness costs absolutely nothing at all.🙏

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    1. Meelosmom Avatar

      Absolutely, Maggie. Kindness should flow freely.

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      1. Ephemeral Encounters Avatar

        💯 Barbara
        Have a lovely day.

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      2. Meelosmom Avatar

        You, too, Maggie! ♥️♥️♥️

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      3. Ephemeral Encounters Avatar

        Thank you Barbara ❤️🙏

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      4. Meelosmom Avatar

        You’re welcome, Maggie!

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  3. Liz Gauffreau Avatar

    What a horrible thing to happen–and it didn’t need to. The poor woman, to be in such pain from bullying that she ended her own life to stop it.

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    1. Meelosmom Avatar

      I agree, Liz. It’s so tragic. She was so young and vital.

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  4. Dawn Pisturino Avatar

    When I worked with troubled teens, bullying was a big problem.

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    1. Meelosmom Avatar

      I wish we had a solution for it. There are so many levels of healing needed.

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  5. Susi Bocks Avatar

    So, so sad. :_( Thank you for writing about her. I found her Instagram and the charity org.

    https://www.instagram.com/saveafox_rescue/?hl=en

    https://www.saveafox.org/

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    1. Meelosmom Avatar

      You’re welcome, Susi!

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